So many people with anxiety come in to see me for help yet they are a little bit skeptical because they have tried so many things that have not worked for them. Let me share with you why we are different and what makes our approach so powerful.

 

Firstly I want to say being a little bit skeptical can be a healthy quality. Skepticism is not good or bad in itself, it only becomes destructive when it’s always ‘on’ and therefore someone has an inability to have an open mind for change, especially when change is exactly what they need. Why do so many Dr’s, healers, psychologists, body workers, breathing clinics and therapists fail to treat anxiety effectively?

{Please keep in mind that this commentary is coming from my clinical experience, working in private practice. The clients who come to see me have almost always tried multiple things first and none have worked. So from my perspective, it is hard for me to see them as being effective. I am sure they all get some great results, it’s just I have never come across it. Often at best my clients found it helpful at managing the anxiety but not resolving it.}

The are a few reasons why so many people get such miserable results when they try to treat anxiety. But before I can explain why and share with you how we are different I need to explain how I see anxiety.

The experience of anxiety is the body being in the fight or flight or survival mode. When we are in survival mode we are operating from a different part of the brain and this creates sensations which we label as anxiety.

The metaphor that I like the most is that of a glass. It has a certain capacity to store water in the same way we have a capacity to store stress in our bodies. If we pour too much water in the glass it overflows. Stress is what fills the glass. If we, in our own lives get to the overflow point from too many (or too high intensity of) life traumas and stresses symptoms of anxiety begin to manifest. Now this experience for many can feel like it comes out of nowhere, it may seem random and often we are unconscious if there are any triggers (I would say that there almost always are triggers). Also the first experience of anxiety for so many people can be so scary if it manifests as a panic attack (this is not the case for everyone with anxiety) that we then begin to fear having another panic attack and now our thoughts of having another panic attack is actually creating more stress and so more drips are filling the glass. This creates more overflow and the cycle is now set in motion. When the glass is overflowing our fight or flight reaction is stuck on!

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Drip by drip the glass fills (with life’s stresses and traumas) - and then overflows!

 
One of the main reasons other practitioners don’t have much success is that they address the symptom and not the cause. They are concerned about the overflow of the water on and beside the glass.Drugs don’t do anything to reduce the anxiety, they merely cover up the overflow. Its still overflowing or the glass is still full but the drugs just stop you being aware of this undesirable experience. Sadly, they themselves are toxic to the body and need to go through an elimination system (Liver mainly) and actually place another stress on the body, thus adding even more drips into the glass.Talking about the stresses can be helpful (can be stressful for some) and beneficial at eliminating the thinking which is a very important factor. I would say developing a new mindset makes up about 15% of what I do - a vital part - BUT only a small part. The reason it is only a small part is due to the fact that when the glass is full the body-mind is at maximum capacity and stuck in survival mode and this therefore creates a thinking that is reactive and defensive in nature. The brain is hardwired to protect you so the thinking is am I in danger, what could go wrong etc. It’s like you’re walking around still holding onto a shield and a dagger even though the war is long over. My point is you can’t really very easily shift your thinking if your body and nervous system is stuck in a defensive, reactive, fight or flight pattern. So now you know what you’re meant to be thinking, you know you should be practicing mindfulness, or experiencing the present moment but your body is screaming “danger”.This is why we are different, here at Inspiring Wellness. We get to the cause — the nervous system being stuck in a defensive pattern (fight or flight) due to too much stress accumulated in the nervous system from life’s stresses and traumas. We release this and provide new healthy strategies. We work with the body and mind (your physiology) and work on developing a healthier new mindset and at the same time help you become more resourceful and resilient. When the nervous system calms down your thinking shifts from defensive and reactive to being more open, creative and proactive. You will feel calmer and have a sense of peace in life. Of course, it is a process to get to this point but it doesn’t take as long as you might think, especially when many clients have come in after suffering for multiple decades.

Are you ready for a transformation?

Even though most people walk in to my practice with a healthy amount of skepticism, they walk out with a sense of hope because they are able to finally see how they can make change effectively and break free from anxiety. Lots of people think they have to live with anxiety — this is simply not true! Email me and I look forward to meeting you.

You are only one decision away from your transformation.

If your reading this, living in Auckland, New Zealand and you are ready to make a change and resolve your anxiety I would love you to get in touch. Simply click here to contact us to make an appointment so we can sit down and discuss how I can help you finally be free from anxiety.

 

Dov Face PicI am the owner of Inspiring Wellness, a wellness and personal transformation clinic in Auckland CBD  and the Author of "Wellness Words, how to think speak and feel great" and  "How to Break free from Anxiety". I love helping my clients take back their lives and  regain their health and  get a whole new higher quality of life. If you are curious if we can help you, please contact us. We are here to help you.

 

 

So many people describe themselves as being an anxious person. And it’s almost like they use ‘anxiety’ as an adjective to describe part of their personality.

 

If so, please be careful whenever you do, if you say "I am Anxious” or "I am an anxious person" it will cause you a lot of pain and cause you to stay stuck feeling anxious!

 

Can you be an anxious person? Or are you just a person who is experiencing anxiety? Or are you just anxious in your feelings, your reactions, your thoughts, and your states?

 

Because we are far more than what we are currently feeling. But when we describe ourselves as being anxious we are actually creating a bigger challenge than we may realise at the time.

I notice that when clients come to me for help with anxiety, they come in from very different starting points, with the severity of their anxiety being the main difference. Some people have occasional attacks and some people have lived a life full of anxiety where it becomes the main director of their life. I have noticed that when anxiety becomes linked to their identity – how they see themselves in the world – it changes from being something that happens that they are scared of to something that they have to learn to live with. It also sets up the cycle for anxiety to repeat itself and therefore remains on-going into their future, and so many people have it move from an experience to a way of life.

Anxiety becoming part of peoples’ identity is very common and I believe this is because the nature of an anxiety attack can be very scary and frightening. Having anxiety takes up a lot of ‘thinking space’, and because we don’t want the experience to happen, we sometimes fight it and so it persists. Most people with anxiety that I have as clients have tried a few things as treatments like, drugs, therapy or breathing techniques, and received very little long term results. Because they received no relief they make the deduction in their thinking that they will just need to learn to live with anxiety for the rest of their life. Sadly this is not true and a very disempowering belief.

Linking anxiety to your identify is an unconscious process, but it is important to think about because when you see yourself as being an anxious person you can become stuck with it, recreating it for many many years.

If you want to live your life free from anxiety, then you have to move anxiety into your past and have it become something that you ONCE HAD. So stop seeing at as a part of who you are.

I am happy to help you discover how you can live anxiety free. The way I work with clients is far more than just a thinking or cognitive process. In fact it is largely an embodied experience of finding safety and peace within, by shifting the ‘tone’ of the nervous system so you can live life from a place of ease. If you're interested in having me help you then I would like to invite you for a free 20 minute consultation. Click here to arrange a time or get in touch on [email protected] to get started straight away.

 

Dov Face PicI am the owner of Inspiring Wellness, a wellness and personal transformation clinic in Auckland CBD and the Author of "Wellness Words, how to think speak and feel great" and "How to Break free from Anxiety". I love helping my clients take back their lives and regain their health and get a whole new higher quality of life. If you are curious if we can help you, please contact us. We are here to help you.

 

 

 

I have noticed that so many people who suffer from anxiety think themselves into anxious states of panic or worry. However, they are often unaware of the impact that their thoughts are having on their health and how to stop this from happening.

We seem to know that the body and mind affect one another. We hear gym slogans like “free the body and the mind will follow”, but we are often not quite sure how our thinking is affecting us. And to be honest, most people are too busy with current day to day stresses, living quite myopically just coping day to day, to give any attention to what their thinking is doing. Yet, the thinking patterns that we have, shape our reality. So often, the situations we find ourselves in, stems from our thinking.

Have you ever thought: “How did I end up here?”

If you dwell enough on certain thoughts that trigger anxiety, like feelings and states, then very soon you feel the effects in your day to day experience. It won't feel nice and you will want to remove it from your life. You will want it gone. You might feel like you are broken – you're not! But still you will want it gone. And so you seek help that is when it is bad enough.  Because when it's bad enough, you will be motivated to take action. For some people it needs to be an intense experience and for others they need to suffer for a long period of time before they seek help. I have had clients who come to me who have been putting up with anxiety for 10-30+ years - just living with it. I have also had clients who come almost immediately after their first attack and seek help.

Nothing will change in life until you become motivated to take action. I help my clients become aware of the triggers of anxiety. What a lot of people don't realise is that their thoughts are often unconsciously triggering responses in the body, and these are frequently triggered by life’s situations. But we don’t just focus on the thinking. In fact, this is only a tiny part of how I get great results with working with clients. Our focus is working with the body to make change, because people often don’t realize that the body (due to how it holds tension from life’s stresses and traumas) holds us into states, which trigger thinking. These feedback into more states that trigger anxiety - and so the loop continues. BUT by becoming aware of the body and how you are playing out this process you become empowered to change it. Now you become and live in control.

Many people want to know how we do this and some people want to know how long this process takes.

So how do we do this? The answer is rather long and complicated, but, in a nut shell, we work with the nervous system to help the body increase its awareness and create new patterns of behaviour by using a combination of Network Spinal Analysis and Somato Respiratory Integration, through a Reorganizational Healing Framework.

How long does it take?
I can’t tell you without first seeing you and working on you, because everyone is unique. Some people have had chronic anxiety that’s crippling, while other people have a very mild form that’s less embedded in the body, nervous system and thinking. Some people are quicker learners and more adaptable, we are all unique. Because this is such a hard question to answer we offer people a free 20 minute consultation. From this I will get a better idea of what the process will be, as it ranges from several visits to several months (for more severe cases).

What you may find comforting is that all clients find they start to get results almost immediately. From their very first session they notice a shift. And then each session builds on the previous.

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If you are reading this – you have just been presented with an opportunity to, at the very least, find out more information on how you can learn to live and be anxiety free.

Studies show that people who take action straight away are far more likely to get the results they want in life. Often, when you put things off until later, you just build a long list of stuff that needs to happen and keep adding to this. You end up with a big pile of 'shoulds'. This situation often creates a tension in our thinking and, ironically, for many people, this is one of the very things that causes anxiety that needs to be worked on.

Let me finish with one of my favourite quotes.
“Opportunities multiply as they are seized” Sun Tzu

If you would like a free consult call me or email me today.

 

Dov Face PicI am the owner of Inspiring Wellness, a wellness and personal transformation clinic in Auckland CBD  and the Author of "Wellness Words, how to think speak and feel great" and  "How to Break free from Anxiety". I love helping my clients take back their lives and  regain their health and  get a whole new higher quality of life. If you are curious if we can help you, please contact us. We are here to help you.

 

 

 

 

Why I Love to Help People

with Anxiety

 

I love helping clients with Anxiety - Let me explain why.

 

I work with so many people of different stages of life, ages, cultures etc. and they come in to see me with such a range of conditions. They all come from a result of too much stress in their life affecting the body and mind and this stress is manifested in many different ways. Anxiety is one of them.

If I can help someone I am happy to, and one thing that I find truly rewarding, time and time again, is helping people with anxiety. On reflection, I realised that the person who is suffering from anxiety has a few traits in common. Of course, not always, but this seems to be the case in the large majority of my clients.

I have noticed that people with anxiety are ambitious within themselves. They really want answers, they want a solution! This makes my work a pleasure because this is an exact match – to create a resolution. The stronger the will someone has to get well, to be better - the better the results. If you really want to make a change and transform your life, you will. If it is just something that you want a little bit, not much will change. People with anxiety – are aware it can be so destructive to life that it really motivates someone to want to change, and the quicker the better.

They accept that they don’t know all the answers and are happy to learn and explore new ideas and strategies.

I have also noticed that many people are still stuck in the blame game of justification. People with anxiety seem to take responsibility for their own thinking, for their life, know that they can change and really want to do something about it. They are not blaming others they are seeking help. But, ironically, here comes the problem – they go and seek help.

Often someone will go to their doctor, healer, psychologist and they will try to ‘fix’ them – but if they get prescribed drugs, at best, this just masks the problem. Not helping them resolve anything at a core level. If they just address the mind they are missing the most important element and so often results are far from satisfactory. Often my clients, so willing to resolve the anxiety, will still continue to look elsewhere determined to beat this condition knowing that deep down it’s possible. That’s why they are so pleased to meet me. And when they get such great results, not only do they live life anxiety free but all that energy that has been consumed in managing it, or keeping it at bay, also becomes available. So they have more energy to really enjoy life with.

Sometimes sadly – people believe they need to live with it. I have had a few clients tell me that they have been told by some expert that they will have it for the rest of their lives and they have to learn to be like this. I know this is not true because of the transformations I have seen in my clinic – people who have had anxiety for decades learnt to resolve it – and then they live a life free of it. I have seen this so many times. I love the fact that our brains have the ability to change, to grow and evolve and as we do our lives get better. If you have been told this limited way of seeing the world, if you have been to a few people in the past and not got the results you want yet – don’t give up. It’s not in your nature. And when you make these breakthroughs, which are what I see every day, I can tell you that they are so empowering your life will get better and better. And you will be super happy – and this makes my job more fun. Simply because I have clients consistently making great progress surrounding me. They are also grateful for the help.

If you would like some help so you can resolve your anxiety, call or email me. We offer people a free 20 minute consultation so you can see if you are likely to respond well to care before you start. You can also purchase my book on "How To Break Free from Anxiety" here.

 

Dov Face PicI am the owner of Inspiring Wellness, a wellness and personal transformation clinic in Auckland CBD  and the Author of "Wellness Words, how to think speak and feel great" and  "How to Break free from Anxiety". I love helping my clients take back their lives and  regain their health and  get a whole new higher quality of life. If you are curious if we can help you, please contact us. We are here to help you.

 

 

If you have anxiety then you will probably know that your breath is often shallow and restricted. But what you may not know, is the negative effect that this is having on your health and well-being.

Do you take small shallow breaths?

Right now if you suffer from anxiety I want you to observe your upper chest. You will probably notice that you are holding lots of tension here. After working with many clients with anxiety I noticed that most anxiety sufferers seemed to have certain similarities in thinking, triggers, breath patterns and where they store tension in their bodies.

Our breath is so important, and I am not just talking about the obvious. If we don't breathe, we will die. I am particularly talking about how the way we breathe effects our health and well-being.
Whenever someone comes into our office in a lot of pain, they have shallow breathing. Whenever someone leaves the office in a great state, relaxed, open and happy, they always have longer, deeper, more even breaths.

In our everyday lives we store tension in our bodies from life's tensions and traumas, yet we only have the ability to store so much before we start developing stress symptoms. You can only store so much tension in your chest before it effects your breathing and triggers the feelings of anxiety.

Your body affects your mind and thinking. Holding tension in the structure of your body affects your emotional and mental state. Too much storing of stress, depending on where you store the tension, can often lead to developing anxiety.

Have you ever heard someone suggest, if you’re having a panic attack, to take deep breaths? Well, if you store tension in your chest, like so many of the people I see commonly do, I don't think you would want to take a deep breath. Because in your chest is all this tension you’re holding onto - a deep breath could activate the tension, which could actually make you feel worse.

I first teach my clients how to let go of the tension they are holding onto in their chests, and when they do this it calms them and their nervous system - then they feel so much better and their anxiety disappears. This becomes a sustainable change too.

If you’re anxious and you’re holding onto tension in your upper chest, and you want help to learn how to live anxiety free. We can discuss how I can help you, and you can ask any questions you may have.

Have a quick read of some testimonials of how I helped people transform their lives, and if you want to live anxiety free, contact me. If you want more information on how I help people with anxiety, please have a look at: How to be free from Anxiety (click here).

Enjoy your breathing!
 

Dov Face PicI am the owner of Inspiring Wellness, a wellness and personal transformation clinic in Auckland CBD  and the Author of "Wellness Words, how to think speak and feel great" and  "How to Break free from Anxiety". I love helping my clients take back their lives and  regain their health and  get a whole new higher quality of life. If you are curious if we can help you, please contact us. We are here to help you.

 

 

Anxiety and Perfectionism – what’s the link?

When I started to help people with anxiety I started seeing certain similarities. Some physical; breath, posture, tension patterns, some similarities in thinking, fear of the future, planning negative futures, language patterns etc, and it seems that there are even certain personality traits that often go together.
I noticed that quite often people with ‘perfectionism’ seem to be quite anxious. Now what’s interesting here is that you can be a perfectionist and not be anxious. And in the same way you can have anxiety and not have perfectionism. But often they are present together.

So what is it about perfectionism that links to anxiety - fear and worry?

What is actually at the core of perfectionism is a belief that there is a right, a perfect way. But it's not just this need for things to be perfect but what would or could happen if things that you did were less than perfect? What would that make you, how would you look?, how would you feel, what would others think or say?

Perfectionism is a double edged sword. On the one hand it helps people work harder and harder and as a result they become more skilled and generally way more effective, but it also comes at a cost of a lot of stress. This effects the body mind relationship and your health negatively and this also affects your day to day wellbeing. Because you are working so hard and, often, not from a place of wanting to, but because of being compelled to do so. A compulsive desire that is often unconscious and leads to no lasting satisfaction. Since even when the job is done, it's quite possibly not perfect.

This reminds me of a time, about seven years ago, when I worked with a lot of personal trainers. I used to ask clients what was the most important thing in their lives. Every one of these trainers said that it was success. Yet every one of them who seemed to be achieving from the outside, was actually living with quite a bit of inner discomfort; as they never felt successful. They key reason being that all defined success in the same way – to be the best that they could be. But they never felt that they had actually attained their absolute best. Why? Because they always though they could have done just a little bit more.

Often we seek the unattainable. We judge things too harshly and set standards that make us feel terrible because they are near impossible to reach. And if we do reach them, we quickly set another goal or task and get lost in this cycle. Over time this builds up – we can only store so much stress in our bodies and minds before we get sick. It is believed that between 60 and 90 percent of doctors’ visits are stress related, and anxiety is often one of the first stressors to appear.

We help people resolve anxiety and we do this in a drug free holistic way. We help people remove their negative thinking patterns and replace them with healthy ones. We work with the nervous system and calm it down, turning off the fight or flight that seems to be always on.

Lots of people think that perfectionism is part of their hard wiring or personality and therefore permanent and I can tell you from working with enough people that this is not the case. Often it is a manifestation of other things. And working the way we do – when we help people live a life free of the need to try and make things perfect, this opens up a new freedom.

 

Dov Face PicI am the owner of Inspiring Wellness, a wellness and personal transformation clinic in Auckland CBD and the Author of "Wellness Words, how to think speak and feel great" and "How to Break free from Anxiety". I love helping my clients take back their lives and regain their health and get a whole new higher quality of life. If you are curious if we can help you, please contact us. We are here to help you.

 

 

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