If you have anxiety then you will probably know that your breath is often shallow and restricted. But what you may not know, is the negative effect that this is having on your health and well-being.

Do you take small shallow breaths?

Right now if you suffer from anxiety I want you to observe your upper chest. You will probably notice that you are holding lots of tension here. After working with many clients with anxiety I noticed that most anxiety sufferers seemed to have certain similarities in thinking, triggers, breath patterns and where they store tension in their bodies.

Our breath is so important, and I am not just talking about the obvious. If we don't breathe, we will die. I am particularly talking about how the way we breathe effects our health and well-being.
Whenever someone comes into our office in a lot of pain, they have shallow breathing. Whenever someone leaves the office in a great state, relaxed, open and happy, they always have longer, deeper, more even breaths.

In our everyday lives we store tension in our bodies from life's tensions and traumas, yet we only have the ability to store so much before we start developing stress symptoms. You can only store so much tension in your chest before it effects your breathing and triggers the feelings of anxiety.

Your body affects your mind and thinking. Holding tension in the structure of your body affects your emotional and mental state. Too much storing of stress, depending on where you store the tension, can often lead to developing anxiety.

Have you ever heard someone suggest, if you’re having a panic attack, to take deep breaths? Well, if you store tension in your chest, like so many of the people I see commonly do, I don't think you would want to take a deep breath. Because in your chest is all this tension you’re holding onto - a deep breath could activate the tension, which could actually make you feel worse.

I first teach my clients how to let go of the tension they are holding onto in their chests, and when they do this it calms them and their nervous system - then they feel so much better and their anxiety disappears. This becomes a sustainable change too.

If you’re anxious and you’re holding onto tension in your upper chest, and you want help to learn how to live anxiety free. We can discuss how I can help you, and you can ask any questions you may have.

Have a quick read of some testimonials of how I helped people transform their lives, and if you want to live anxiety free, contact me. If you want more information on how I help people with anxiety, please have a look at: How to be free from Anxiety (click here).

Enjoy your breathing!
 

Dov Face PicI am the owner of Inspiring Wellness, a wellness and personal transformation clinic in Auckland CBD  and the Author of "Wellness Words, how to think speak and feel great" and  "How to Break free from Anxiety". I love helping my clients take back their lives and  regain their health and  get a whole new higher quality of life. If you are curious if we can help you, please contact us. We are here to help you.

 

 

Anxiety and Perfectionism – what’s the link?

When I started to help people with anxiety I started seeing certain similarities. Some physical; breath, posture, tension patterns, some similarities in thinking, fear of the future, planning negative futures, language patterns etc, and it seems that there are even certain personality traits that often go together.
I noticed that quite often people with ‘perfectionism’ seem to be quite anxious. Now what’s interesting here is that you can be a perfectionist and not be anxious. And in the same way you can have anxiety and not have perfectionism. But often they are present together.

So what is it about perfectionism that links to anxiety - fear and worry?

What is actually at the core of perfectionism is a belief that there is a right, a perfect way. But it's not just this need for things to be perfect but what would or could happen if things that you did were less than perfect? What would that make you, how would you look?, how would you feel, what would others think or say?

Perfectionism is a double edged sword. On the one hand it helps people work harder and harder and as a result they become more skilled and generally way more effective, but it also comes at a cost of a lot of stress. This effects the body mind relationship and your health negatively and this also affects your day to day wellbeing. Because you are working so hard and, often, not from a place of wanting to, but because of being compelled to do so. A compulsive desire that is often unconscious and leads to no lasting satisfaction. Since even when the job is done, it's quite possibly not perfect.

This reminds me of a time, about seven years ago, when I worked with a lot of personal trainers. I used to ask clients what was the most important thing in their lives. Every one of these trainers said that it was success. Yet every one of them who seemed to be achieving from the outside, was actually living with quite a bit of inner discomfort; as they never felt successful. They key reason being that all defined success in the same way – to be the best that they could be. But they never felt that they had actually attained their absolute best. Why? Because they always though they could have done just a little bit more.

Often we seek the unattainable. We judge things too harshly and set standards that make us feel terrible because they are near impossible to reach. And if we do reach them, we quickly set another goal or task and get lost in this cycle. Over time this builds up – we can only store so much stress in our bodies and minds before we get sick. It is believed that between 60 and 90 percent of doctors’ visits are stress related, and anxiety is often one of the first stressors to appear.

We help people resolve anxiety and we do this in a drug free holistic way. We help people remove their negative thinking patterns and replace them with healthy ones. We work with the nervous system and calm it down, turning off the fight or flight that seems to be always on.

Lots of people think that perfectionism is part of their hard wiring or personality and therefore permanent and I can tell you from working with enough people that this is not the case. Often it is a manifestation of other things. And working the way we do – when we help people live a life free of the need to try and make things perfect, this opens up a new freedom.

 

Dov Face PicI am the owner of Inspiring Wellness, a wellness and personal transformation clinic in Auckland CBD and the Author of "Wellness Words, how to think speak and feel great" and "How to Break free from Anxiety". I love helping my clients take back their lives and regain their health and get a whole new higher quality of life. If you are curious if we can help you, please contact us. We are here to help you.

 

 

We humans have survived for thousands of years by being able to adapt to our environment. In fact, during times of stress, our bodies have developed a built-in survival mechanism as part of ‘the sympathetic nervous system’, also known as the fight or flight response. This gives us a fantastic and effective, short term response, to all kinds of perceived challenges and dangers, which boosts adrenaline, raises our heart rate, increases arousal, and produces many other physiological changes.

Ideally, as soon as the stressful situation is resolved, the parasympathetic division (rest and digest) should take over and once again we should return to a relaxed state. But if we're in an environment where we are continually stressed, our bodies remain stuck in the reactive sympathetic mode. As a result, it becomes very hard or impossible to relax, we feel stressed lots of the time and often feel anxious. If this continues, when our bodies are being placed under too much stress for long periods of time, our health begins to rapidly decline; so does our quality of life. Indeed, medical researchers have proposed that stress is the cause of between 60-95% of all diseases!

Thus, when stressed for an extended period of time, the "plastic" nature of the nervous system begins to adapt. When you continuously have a certain experience – such as being stressed or anxious – it becomes much easier to have this response again and again. The brain becomes used to it, and adapts so that it can more quickly and easily move into that mode. Just like a bodybuilder uses repetition to condition and develop their muscles towards performing a certain function – lifting heavy weights – when repeatedly exposed to stressful situations, your nervous system conditions itself to always expect to have to respond immediately.

Similarly, imagine learning to play a chord on guitar for the first time – it's clumsy, awkward... but practice makes perfect. After repeating it many times, playing that chord becomes effortless. The same is true of your nervous system – it adapts and rewires. Pretty great when learning to play guitar, but not so great when it's an anxious response your body has unconsciously learned. When this adaptation happens, you become "hypersensitive" – you may see yourself as a sensitive person, or find yourself being reactive or defensive. You might find that you get anxious very easily, and even the smallest of things that interrupt your basic, relaxed state can have you feeling anxious over and over again.

This is why so many people suffering from anxiety report that they always feel on edge – like they're always "switched on". This can be especially true for people with traumatic histories, having grown up in a dangerous or unsupportive environment. Stressed parents, domestic violence or abuse during childhood and adolescence are very common causes of anxiety disorders.

Simply put, if you have encountered many individual stressful situations, or prolonged periods of stress, then you are more likely to become hypersensitive – your nervous system adapts, and this set pattern (?) can have a very strong negative impact on your life. Now what is important to know is that we are not STUCK in this way forever. In fact, we can shift out of it when we know how and we can actually retrain the nervous system. So rather than reactively respond to stress and remain stuck in this defensive state, we can teach our bodies and mind (nervous system) how to be more resilient to stress.

We have many techniques that we use in our office to help us achieve this goal, the most powerful of which is a technique called NSA – or Network Spinal Analysis. This is a very powerful, safe, effective, and gentle approach to stress relief (?), and clients all around the world love it. One of the most common things I hear my clients say to me is “things that used to stress me out don’t seem to affect me anymore in the same way that they used to, normally under this much pressure I would be feeling terrible or hardly coping but it seems to not really be affecting me any longer ”.

In our practice we do far more than NSA. Our goal is simple, to retrain your nervous system, to stop being stuck in reactive, patterns of high stress, which negatively effects your health and wellbeing, and create new healthier strategies for a happier and healthier tomorrow.

 

Dov Face PicI am the owner of Inspiring Wellness, a wellness and personal transformation clinic in Auckland CBD and the Author of "Wellness Words, how to think speak and feel great" and "How to Break free from Anxiety". I love helping my clients take back their lives and regain their health and get a whole new higher quality of life. If you are curious if we can help you, please contact us. We are here to help you.

 

 

Our society has taught us to think about depression in a certain way. We have ‘drugs’ that will make you better… Or will they? In my experience the drugs never really make anyone permanently better. Nor have I ever seen a human being who was better as a person because they took some antidepressant. Sure, we have seen many people who cope better. And that the immediate benefits  of taking some drugs can produce a more desirable way of life compared to their previous way of living. But do you really think that if you take a drug it will help you to understand anything that has been affecting you at a deeper level? Do you really think you are going to get some epiphany and see things with greater clarity? These drugs can be useful as a short term intervention, but they often become a crutch and make it harder for people to come off them.  You become reliant on some external chemical and without it feel stuck. Not to mention the side effects. But even if your on them and have been on them for decades, I have helped many people come off them when appropriate. First we need to let go and resolve a few things and work on some strategies towards being happy and well.

Every moment is a new opportunity to shift things, and the key is often in shifting things really slowly and steadily - but in such a way as it propels you in the direction that will make living life more enjoyable.  -

If you can find just a small moment of happiness then I can show you how to stretch this moment into the present and then future.

 

But first you have to want this. So do you want to be well?

We are hard wired to become sad, upset, angry, agitated and also all the other negative emotions that we feel. But why do we feel these negative emotions – what is their purpose?

People have been telling you for so long that you need to stop feeling sad, or that this state is wrong. And as soon as you accept the purpose for being sad you can then move onwards.

Symptoms are your body's way of telling you to listen to what’s going on, for you to realise that something is not right (almost never is it a chemical imbalance), and because something is not right, you have to figure it out, and take action. And do things differently. Then, and only then, can the symptom disappear.

But if we just remove the symptom – by taking a drug or covering it up - we will never unlock the message, and so the messenger sticks around. So this terrible feeling hangs around AND THEN we begin the downward spiral. At this point we create ‘stories’ about our experience. Why we are broken? What’s wrong with us? How we are perhaps worthless, and so on. By doing this we strengthen the downward spiral, and, as a result, we keep getting feelings that make us sad… They are suppose to, because within the feelings and thoughts contain the wisdom for your life of greater happiness. But very few people can see this wisdom, including many doctors, psychologists and therapists. Because they are too busy trying to fix you – so often they don’t see outside of what they have learnt to see at university. But some do, and can help you.

Every journey begins at a point. I am guessing you have a point within you that is seeking something greater for yourself and that is why you are reading this. Please give me a call and schedule a FREE 20minute consultation, so you can come in and meet me and ask me any questions in person.  Within 20 minutes I will know if I can help you. When people walk out the office after their first 20minute consultation often it comes with a knowing that life is about to get better AND it's often because they just made a decision to be on a path to get well. They just made the decision to do some unlearning and more importantly learn some strategies to be happy and well. I hope to meet you soon. And help you to a happier future.

 

Dov Face PicI am the owner of Inspiring Wellness, a wellness and personal transformation clinic in Auckland CBD and the Author of "Wellness Words, how to think speak and feel great" and "How to Break free from Anxiety". I love helping my clients take back their lives and regain their health and get a whole new higher quality of life. If you are curious if we can help you, please contact us. We are here to help you.

 

 

Did you know the more you worry about not sleeping the less likely you are to get a good night’s sleep?

This means you need some strategies to break you out of any bad habits you may have been starting to form or have been repeating for a long time.

Insomnia comes about without warning and very quickly becomes all consuming. And very quickly you can watch your quality of life diminish; not only do you not sleep well but this lack of sleeping starts to affect all areas of your life.

So many insomniacs suffer from constant anxiety about sleeping. In fact that is how I started helping people with this problem. Most my clients with insomnia came to me originally seeking assistance with anxiety. Often the inability to sleep would trigger the anxiety and then this would make the insomnia worse. A big problem just got much bigger, and will continue to snowball until you do something effective about it.

Lots of people will turn to sleeping pills. Yet, did you know, there is lots of evidence to suggest that sleeping pills will do more harm than good. Sure they can be a great tool if used for the short term in certain cases. But many of my clients who have tried them, tell me they find they didn't work. In fact, many report that they did not even help their quality of sleep, which was very poor, and the next day they still felt a bit off, and they still had the sleep trouble. Nothing was addressed, except a possible dependency on something now that was neither really working nor adding to life. So if you become dependent on them, you have to deal with the potential side effects of taking these drugs.

Very many clients come to me with innumerable misunderstandings about sleep and myths – which they seem to think are facts. And the beliefs they have can cause such big problems. These need to be addressed, because what you may not be aware of is that you may have some beliefs that are actually causing you more pain and without attending to them you will not be able to be free.

You have probably already come across the need for healthy night time rituals and used lots of relaxation techniques and tricks – if not check out my blog for lots of tips and insights. For some of you this will be enough to help you. But most of you will need to go deeper. Let me explain why.

Stress in its many different forms is the culprit – or more truthfully it’s more our inability to properly deal with stress. We just accumulate it in our bodies. We store it as tension and we keep doing this a little, bit by bit, until we have stored too much. We can only accumulate so much before we have problems manifesting in our bodies.

When someone has had too much trauma in their life or too much stress (constant or intense) your nervous systems’ ability to deal with this often becomes far less adaptable. Stress triggers the ‘fight or flight’ sympathetic response. Our bodies become tenser, our minds are racing, we feel energy surging through our bodies, often at the wrong times, and so we can’t rest. This fight or flight mode is built for survival, but at night we are meant to increase our ‘rest and digest’ parasympathetic output. Consequently, if you go to bed with the fight or fight ‘switch’ still on you’re not going to have any restful sleep or, worse, any sleep.

In our Wellness clinic we have techniques for achieving greater mind–body control to improve not only sleep but also overall health and wellbeing that are truly transformational. This is more than just learning how to sleep better – it’s about improving yourself and your life. Obviously, the better you sleep the more energy you will have for life. And the better your body is at dealing with stress the healthier you will be.

Many researchers believe that stress is the cause of 95% of all our diseases. And if you’re at the point where you have insomnia then your body is screaming at you to make a change, to do something. The first step is to break you out of some of these disruptive night time rituals that you have created and to lower the stress that is stored in the body – this is a must!

How we help people at Inspiring Wellness:

The body and mind are connected. Our work is focused on the nervous system to give you more peace in your body and mind.

If you are struggling with insomnia,  come in and see us, so you can get some sleep - not in my office though ☺

 

Dov Face PicI am the owner of Inspiring Wellness, a wellness and personal transformation clinic in Auckland CBD  and the Author of "Wellness Words, how to think speak and feel great" and  "How to Break free from Anxiety". I love helping my clients take back their lives and  regain their health and  get a whole new higher quality of life. If you are curious if we can help you, please contact us. We are here to help you.

 

 

Trauma in its many different forms anchors itself in our bodies over time. This can, and often does, have a massive detrimental effect on our health, outlook, relationships and general day to day well-being.

 

The trauma can be a one-time intense experience or combination of multiple traumas over a period of time ; either way there is a cause and effect relationship. The “stress” causes a part of the brain - the sympathetic nervous system (this is the fight or flight response) to be activated. This is a protective mechanism and a great short term response. But for many people it's like the switch stays “ON” 24/7. Because we don’t know how to turn it off. Having the constant experience of being under stress creates an on-going hypersensitivity to stress, so little stressors trigger larger than appropriate responses. As a result you have even more stress in life, which is also anchored into the body- and this creates a cycle that repeats itself, a loop, and you become stuck within it.

Because the ‘experience’ is anchored in the body it is therefore constantly sending a signal to the brain reminding you that you are not safe in the world, and so you keep the guard up, you keep the defensive shield on. But months or years later this has a detrimental effect on your life, on your health, and on your well-being.

I love helping people release the trauma that has been anchored into the body because it’s a very gentle process. And because with the method that we use, we work with the body to release stored tension from the nervous system. We lead first with the body, so as the body shifts, the mind follows. As the body becomes free, and becomes more open and safe in the world, the mind follows suit. So people have profound positive life changing shifts.

Often during a session you will let go of tension, but have no idea of ‘what’ you’re letting go of specifically, it's not important for us to know what is being released. It's just fantastic that this is occurring in a gentle and safe way.

If the body is anchored into the trauma, as it is hardwired to do, we live life with the fight or flight switch “on”. As a result, we perceive things as stressful when often they are not. But also this affects our thinking as we see things through a filter of survival or defense, often without knowing it. It therefore unconsciously affects our day to day perceptions, within our environment, self and towards others – everything.

Love, compassion and gratitude are available from a place of safety, not from defense. As you open up and let go of what no longer serves you, you use the trauma as a ‘fuel’ to access a new range of possibilities; that previously felt outside of what you currently believe is possible for you. Remember - When the body is free, the mind follows.

If you would like to let go of the trauma that is stored in your body, then I invite you to come join us this sunday for a free Live Webinar at 8pm where we will go in more depth.

 

*Please note that I am neither a psychotherapist nor psychologist, but I have many recommendations and testimonials from these professionals in the past as they experinenced and seen the value in my work.

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